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Dec. 23, 2025

The Drift is Real - Pastor Judah Smith & Dr. Dharius Daniels | Masterclass Episode 4

The Drift is Real - Pastor Judah Smith & Dr. Dharius Daniels | Masterclass Episode 4
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The Drift is Real - Pastor Judah Smith & Dr. Dharius Daniels | Masterclass Episode 4

In this episode of Voices from the Masterclass, Pastor Adam Durso sits down with Dr. Dharius Daniels and Pastor Judah Smith to explore what makes this gathering so spiritually weighty, and why leaders today must rethink how they approach the calling to ministry.

Perhaps the most important part of the conversation is their honest exploration of how easily leaders drift from intimacy with Jesus into professional performance. Pastor Judah reflects on the danger of performative humility and the invitation to stop producing long enough to truly receive from God. Pastor Dharius shares a framework for recovery, emphasizing the difference between replenishment and returning: not just filling your tank, but actively retracing your steps back to spiritual alignment.

The conversation lands on the necessity of pre-emptive margin. In a culture that rewards hustle, the pastors challenge their fellow leaders to reclaim rest, even when it looks “unspiritual,’ and offer listeners a powerful reminder: your value to God is never based on your output, but on the truth that He is your Father, not your coach.

(00:02) Next-gen voice, change, humility and rest
(07:40) Presence with God and staying grounded while busy
(14:34) Leadership culture that resists rest
(23:28) Sabbath takes faith
(34:06) God is Father, not coach

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So you asked the question, how do you train up and lead the next generation? I think it's important that you let that generation have a voice. This idea that every Sunday we can guarantee that God's going to meet us in the 45 minute presentation, ladies and gentlemen, it is just not how it works in the sacred narrative. How does he give you a heart for such a specific place? And then to really see the stats and to really say, we want to make change and it's possible. You know, the hardest part in leading change is not where you'll leave and it's not when you get there. That spot in the middle to sometimes in your weakness, foolishness, not getting it. God's like, he just does it anyway. If there's a core issue in my faith, then I can't see God right and I'll demand he does for me quickly. What my character can only handle slowly. How do you know what you're speaking into until you hear where they're coming from? I have to see that proper rest and replenishment wasn't in the way. It was the way. I will borrow from what's on the inside of you and bring it out. So the quality goes in before the song comes out. Humility is this acceptance of who you really are, who God really is, that puts you in a posture to encounter God in a genuine and authentic way. Welcome to Voices from the Masterclass, a special faithfully podcast series brought to you by Faithly, preaching Masterclass and leading leaders collective. It has to add them there so live from preaching Masterclass, we are on Faithly Stories. I am joined by Dr. Darryus Daniels, say what's up to the audience? What's up everybody? Excited to be here, man. And the incomparable passage you to Smith. Come on, I'm thrilled to be here. I am, I mean, what we just experienced is phenomenal. There seems to be, I mean, for me, being a PK and then being around the ministry for the last 30 years, go to a lot of conferences, been to a lot of conferences. There seems to be a weightiness to this conference that's a little different. I don't know if it's the meatiness of the meat, I don't know what it is, but there is something distinctly different. Can you give your reflection of the preaching Masterclass and what we've experienced this last afternoon pose? Yeah. Well, this is actually my first one. Okay. You know, what to expect, yep, and just speaking frankly, you know, you know, this Adam Judy, you know, it's too, bro, we do a lot of, I've been in church my whole life, we do a lot of conferences and after a while, the value add, just diminishes a bit because, you know, when you're starting off, everything is new and everything is a value add. But this has been, by far, one of the most helpful, enriching experiences that I've had in a very long time and I attribute to do a couple of things. One is the non pretentious nature of the event. I feel like every presenter is serving the attendees and not just serving their best stuff. So I think that makes a tremendous difference. And then to the diversity of voices and perspectives. And I think that just makes everything just so rich for me at least. Yeah, and I think all of that ends up happening because it's led with intentionality, you know, from, from Albert Tate and this is kind of the life that he's lived and it's refreshing as we all are aging, you know, when I was young as we used to be, you start to look back and go, oh, wait a minute, Albert Tate's been doing this a long time and Adam, you've been doing this a long time. And so I think what has been provided is probably taken decades to create an environment like this where there's implicit trust. I mean, I'm, I'm ended up hugging people the last few minutes that, hey, I first heard you here and then and when and everyone's kind of got this 10 year, 20 year, 15, 18 year kind of connection. And everybody is in the room leaning in. I agree. I agree so much. There's so little pretension here, but I cannot help but give accolades to Albert Tate because I think I was talking to a pastor on the phone as I was getting here and he's like, do you like it? Well, I like Albert Tate and I feel like if he's leading this, I'm going to be there and I have so enjoyed the minutes and moments that I've been in the room with these incredible ministers. And then of course, I can't help but say Bishop Homer who we so look up to and I have revered since I was a young boy. So to me, I couldn't agree more. It means a lot to me to hear Darry say that we've been friends for a long time. And I think there is something special about this event and about this room and what happens in it. We wake up in the morning, pretty motivated, ready to go. But there's something about this conference that's not just like raw, raw, we can get to the top of the mountain. There's something about like, give me a pickaxe, give me the boots, give me the stuff, the tools that one of the tools that leaders that are listening right now should be applying to their leadership, their preaching, their leading organizations, NGOs, nonprofits, churches. What are some of the tools they need to be making sure they're putting in their arsenal? They should be sharpening their acts so that they can lead most effectively. Wow. You know, I think what I would say at least based on this conference is, it's important for leaders to see communication as a leadership competency. Yes. Yes. I think that's very underrated, and even like, biblically, if you look at the story of the Tower of Babel, like whatever you're building, you build it better if you get better what works. You're building the construction stuff because there was like a gap in the communication. I just really feel like whether you're making presentations or having conversations, it's still our communication. Yes. That's got to be seen as a leadership competency and developed like it's a leadership competence. It's a hundred. I think the concentration, too, on a very specific aspect of leadership, I think is so potent and powerful and it probably makes the room as dynamic as it is. I think the willingness and maybe even the riskiness to go, hey, this is going to be a preaching masterclass. It's a very definitive title. It's a very definitive kind of target, and I think that's refreshing. I think we benefit from that greatly. I also think because of who the tates are, because of who Albert is, there is this underlying, and it's the first time that Darius and I have been together in this room. I think even the kind of the flow that I felt in the room from what he was saying, what I was saying, Albert seems to have a way, and the environment seems to have a way of saying, hey, please be like fully yourself and don't turn this into a performance. I've seen so many different communicators now come through the masterclass, and it's almost as if they get in the jet stream, and they themselves without even prepping kind of go, oh, and PS, by the way, be your original self. And perhaps that's why Paul emphasizes it so much with Timothy, who's having a bit of a crisis of leadership, and partly because of his success, there's no tests like success. And he's worried about it, and Paul says, hey, listen, be strong in your charisma, be strong in something you didn't earn to deserve it or warrant. It was simply received, be strong in it, accept it, absorb it, recognize who you are, and do you. And I think the diversity of the room in different movements and traditions and backgrounds is not lost on me that a lot of the different preachers and ministers that are here have so many different theological traditions that have informed them to this point. And yet there's an ability for really profound unanimity that I really respect and love. So I cannot underscore enough, I don't even know, it's probably isn't supposed to be a commercial for the preaching masterclass, but it just turned into, because I can't help it, because I really do believe in it that much. Yeah, I think obviously we're impacted because we're sitting here live from preaching masterclass to Southern California. But when we think about leadership beyond this particular conference, you're both ridiculously busy, and yet it sounded to me in both of your messages and both of your teaching, there is this need to be fully present, to avoid performance. It was different in your presentation, it was different in your presentation, and yet both keenly true of each other and complemented each other. Yeah. And so for leaders that are busy, how do you ensure that you're being fully present and being present with the Lord? Yeah, Judah. Yeah. So you just did this whole message on it, right? Yeah. He did. Yeah. What? Just the garden. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, no one graced it. Yeah. Yeah. I guess you should just give it a first. I will say that first of all, if it was easy, let me just sink into this first second. If it was easy, everybody would do it. And what I mean by that is if you go to any conference, any convention, any retreat, any advance, anything with particularly with church leadership, and you introduced the idea of returning to get into your first love and getting back to that child who fell in love with Jesus. Listen, Adam Dears, you both know the whole room is going to be like, ah, man, that's the truth. We all need that. Right. So in other words, the drift is real. Right. Yeah. The gradual drift is real. Yeah. And by the way, I would suggest that actually the drift becomes incredibly more, ah, in play when you are the disseminator or the baker. Yes. Like, so, so in other words, the starving baker, John Maxwell, you used to talk about like you're constantly making bread for everybody else. You forget that making the bread is not the same as eating the bread. Yes. So I, first of all, I just don't like the premise and the notion that like some preacher or minister or leader is bad because somehow they're suddenly lean in their soul. Yeah. I would say that's a very normal natural drift. And when you're about the work of the kingdom, you forget to be a sheep in the, in the past year. So I just want to say that I want to normalize that a little bit and say, listen, we're all going to be there. There's going to be days you got to return to your first love. I think in terms of how you do it, I think there is an underlying kind of thing that we don't talk about enough. And it's, it's very, very basic and simple and it's not going to be revelatory. It's easily, easily overlooked. And it's just a little thing called humility. Now bear with me because humility is not the action of acting humble. Humility is this acceptance of who you really are, who God really is that puts you in a posture to encounter God in a genuine and authentic way. Humility is that thing in you that says, I need that. Humility is that thing in you that says, I'm a nightmare. Humility is that thing in you that says, I've stopped thinking about me and got lost in another person's message or ministry and really connected with God. And I know that might sound silly, but we do drift and we become professional and it becomes a whole thing. And if we're not careful, we name it a bunch of different things like busy and distracted. But oftentimes it comes back to this really profound spiritual posture, which is like, are we able? It feels more sophisticated and more godly to be in the kitchen like Martha and cook and stuff up and doing the right thing. It seems noble. No ability. And it takes a lot for a man of God or woman of God to crisscross applesauce in front of Jesus and say, I'm just going to absorb all the revelation that comes from here. And so I think one of the reasons we enjoy, I'm not trying to, you know, harp on this, but going back to the environment that we all benefit from here at the master's class, we'll look at the minute women that lead this environment. These are truly, in my opinion, truly minute women who embody what it means to be humble. They are life learners. They are listeners. They don't care what your age is, your background, your story, or even your pedigree. They want to know what do you know about God because I can learn from it. If you watch Bishop Omer when he's not preaching, there's a whole message there that you care. Yes. That's kind of me inching into how we get back to enjoying the presence of Jesus and being present. What Judah said. Yes. I really feel like one thing really, really quick. It is, I feel like what Judah said is so important, he normalized the gradual drift, right? And I just think the question becomes, if we know that the drift is normal, right, then what discipline do we put in place, like so for me, I would say, okay, I have replenishment disciplines, the things that I know I need to do to replenish me with that, emotionally, spiritually, et cetera, right? Then there also needs to be returning disciplines. What are the things that I need to do when I sense my soul is getting lean, right? And I think if we're honest, when we have seasons where our soul is lean, what we assume is going to happen, we're never going to get back there. Like once I fix it this time, it's going to stay fixed, right? You know? You know, I'm going to sit at the feet of Jesus. And then especially in leadership, if somebody's coming tapping you on the shoulders, I'm trying to sit at the feet of Jesus, the builders on fire, I'll be back, Jesus, I'll be back. Staff is going to curse, I'll be back, Jesus. And so the question I think is like, okay, not just what do I need to do to try to stay there? But what do I need to put in place when I feel like I need to return there? And for me, that's going to be like, how do I proactively create margin and space in my schedule so that I've got the time to return? You know, the old hymn says, you know, my soul prone to wander, prone to wander. That's it. You know, why do we need to be filled with the Holy Spirit daily because we leak? So what are some of the things in your lives, men, that you say, these are those practices to ensure that I'm returning what I'm feeling? And who are the people? And you're like, I know for me, it's my wife. And she's like, Adam, you know, we've been married 26 years this December, my wife's a Puerto Rican from East New York, Brooklyn. You know, Adam, it's time to like, you need to pull back. Who are the people in your life that are saying that to you one because sometimes we don't see ourselves into what are those practices that you put in place to make sure you come back for a punishment? I just want to say, I want to jump on with Darius said, no, preemptive margin. Everybody is down for margin when they feel like it's crises, it's like, it was margin that I needed. But the problem is is when you put margin into your schedule, it is very hard to justify its nobility or its spirituality because it feels like you're scheduling nothingness. And the truth is, if we're all honest at this table, I get made fun of for my margin. Okay. So we don't talk about that. So I get like, I mean, I used to have my pastor, one of my mentors used to be like, I should be nice to you, you're always, you live on vacation. You live on vacation. Well, guess what? I'm also still married 26 years. Right. I'm not sexting with nobody else. Right. So Andrew. I'd like to go ahead and chalk that one up to preemptive margin. Preemptive margin. It's really difficult for us to say like, man, I just, I mean, I just, pastor, would you pray for me? We all know we go to these events. It's like, man, would you just pray probably really going through a tough time? And the most wildest thing you want to tell somebody is that if you actually would lessen your schedule and you would block out, here's the thing about artistry and here's the thing about being a random abstract artist is what you understand is how inspiration, the trajectory of inspiration, the flow of inspiration by nature is unpredictable. And very similar to the rainbow word of God and how God speaks to human beings. This idea that every Sunday, we can guarantee that God's going to meet us in the 45 minute presentation. Ladies and gentlemen, it is just not how it works in the sacred narrative. We see God showing up oftentimes when the recipients least expected. So if we can plan a walk in the park, maybe one of the bushes will burst into flames and God will start talking. But to predict the burning books, to predict the still small voices, to predict, in fact, there's a whole lesson with the prophet, you know, the earthquake comes in the wind comes in. Well, that's God. That's God. It's the still. So sometimes we got to get quiet. We got to get into nothing. And so I would say everybody loves this conversation. But what I still don't see is any prevailing trend amongst leaders and preachers, specifically spiritual leaders who champion each other's margin. Yeah. That's what I want to see. I want to be in the green room, where we're all like, yo, bro, you took a month off. That's what I'm talking about. Right. Hey, wait, you take three days off a week. Now we're talking. Right. Instead, it's like, whoa, must be nice things from, hey, whoa, okay, everybody kind of does that. Right. But it's such an old stick. Right. But it's about honest. It's actually subtly, sneakily kind of stealing from us. And we all feel this imminent pressure that if I'm going to be a man of God, I've got to be about it every day all day. And it's secretly, I think, sappiness of our strength. You know, I think what Judah is describing, Adam, is something that it is really something that I think has actually become a bit pervasive in Christian leadership culture. Okay. I think what he just described, not margin, but like what he just described, unfortunately, is normal. And I feel like, and what I mean by that is kind of the marginless living. Yes. And the passive aggressive critique that you know, it's not always outright, but the passive progressive critique that, and the critique is really critique of strength. I don't know what it is. I know it is in my circles, right? It's almost like, yeah, that much time off your week. Right. You can't handle the pressure. And I am not quite sure how we got there. Right. Right. Me too. But I am grateful for podcasts like this, because it creates space for conversations like this. Right. For people who are feeling claustrophobic, and being confined to a Christian leadership culture that is really spiritually deformative, like, so without what Judah is talking about, I don't even know how you become more like becoming more like Jesus. Take time. Take time. One of you is literally, and if you don't, if you don't have that time, I don't know how that happens. And I think, um, conversation, podcasts like this and conversations like this help people who are feeling claustrophobic and confined to those categories see a way out. It gives them this conversation kind of gives some people the courage to say, I'm going to do this differently. And I think I know that's what I have had to do. And I'm hoping that as people hear this, they'll do the same. Adam, can I just add to that, I'm so passionate about this. In the story of Mary and Martha, ironically, who resents who? If you remember, Martha literally says to Jesus, hey, this ain't, she literally says it's not right. Right. It's actually there's no justice in this. This isn't fair. Like why is she in here? And what's amazing to me is one of the tale tell signs that you are, are marginless living, you haven't exercised preemptive living is, you don't have to tell nobody. So if you're listening right now, you don't have to tell anybody. But have you ever resented other people's margin? Yeah. Have you ever looked at somebody else and thought, well, sure must be nice. They got a nice house too. Oh, okay. Oh, they're fit. I bet they are fit. They got time to go to the gym. I don't got time to go to the gym. And what's wild is worship, if the juxtaposition is like, you know, work is Martha and worship is Mary, you know, rest in, I don't know, work. And what's wild is when you're resting, resting is not the absence of work. It's the prioritization of where work falls. It's putting work in its place. That's all. It's like saying, oh, yeah, it is. In fact, the already is when you worship well, you work better and you work smarter and you work with more passion. In fact, they'll say, Paul says, I labored more abundantly than you all wait a second. It wasn't me. It was the spirit of God in me. It's rested work, which is totally different than striving and toiling. And so I think sometimes I work really hard. Chelsea's, she says, Judy, you tell people you don't work. I say, what don't feel like work because I feel so energized and impassioned to do it. It feels like a passion project more than it feels like I'm checking in nine to five. But I've been there when I'm checking in nine to five. I grow in resentment and that is a sign I'm just step back and go wait a minute. And by the way, by the way, the antidote is not what people think it is. When they resent other people's rest and what they want to do is they want to go to somebody's house. They want to, you know, crack open a beverage, eat a pizza and talk in my circles. We use other words talk smack about other people and think that somehow that's going to make themselves feel better when in reality, the only antidote is the very thing you resent. Humble yourself and say, you know what? I actually need to do the very thing they're doing in the people that I resent. I need to go make some time. The most spiritual thing might be go on a vacation. Yes. That might be the most spiritual thing you could do in your whole ministry. Yes. I mean, going back to your point, right, Elijah is under a tree and he's like, I'm done. Yeah. You know, kill me. Yeah. Thank God he doesn't answer every prayer, right? Yeah. I mean, sorry. Oh, no, sorry. Some of us wouldn't be married. We'd have less kids. You know, but he's like, and what does he get? He gets a nap. He wakes up to the smell of warm bread baking over cold. I mean, what's better than a New York bakery? Hmm. I mean, and cool water in a desert. Come on. What did he really need? He didn't need. Yeah. He needed just rest. I mean, he needed some good vacation. He needed a moment. Here's one thing about that story though, right? There is, when you look at what leads up to that particular breakdown of Elijah, it was like this period of like really intense business, opposition, spiritual warfare, jazz a bit like all these sorts of things, right? Leading up to it. And here's what I think is become the case. I feel like Elijah's experience leading up to that breakdown is the normal leader's pace. Hmm. That's no. So that was, that was periodic for the profit. I think that's normal for today's leader. Yes. And because that is the case, I think we're more prone to those moments. And so we need to be more aggressive and more assertive. So let's say like for me, and for me, I know some people will hear this because let's say years ago, 10 years ago, I would have heard this for 2014, I would have heard this. And I would have been like, oh, maybe they're wired different, right? Like I'll be like, I'm wired type A. Right, right, right. You know, I'll be like, okay, maybe they're less ambitious or maybe that's a, maybe what they're describing as a personality type, you know what I mean? And what I had to see was, all right, no, that's not necessarily the case. I had to see that proper rest and replenishment wasn't in the way of my goals. It was the way to my goals. Yes. I had to have a reframe in that regard. And it's like, so for me, it took faith for me to implement the principle of a Sabbath. Okay. I'm actually going to take a day. So it took faith to do that, to okay, I believe that God is going to be able to do more, right? In these six days with me rested and replenished, right, then he would in seven without me doing this. Yes. Now, now because of the nature of what I'm stored, one day, not enough, there we go. Right. So one day was the ceiling. Now one day is the floor, right? And I think it's important for leaders to discern like, hey, are you in that like, are you, are you living in a larger pace right now? And if so, you've got to recognize the importance of balancing that out with a different kind of degree of rest and replenishment and not see it as something that's in the way of you accomplishing what God's putting your heart. It is the way to accomplish what God's putting your heart. When I read what it says in Galatians 3 in the message Bible, I wrote this down this morning. Yeah. I tried to quote it. You did it. No, but it was good. It was good. You got the right. You got the translate, right? He puts it like this. The person, this is, he claims that this is a good translation of the former end of Galatians 3. The person who lives in right relationship with God does it by embracing what God arranges for him. Doing things for God is the opposite of entering into what God does for you. So here's my question. When do you schedule what God does for you? When do you schedule what God does for you? Because doing things for God is the opposite. I love the language of entering into what God does for you. And I have learned very quickly in this line of work that it is not popular nor celebrated to schedule when God does work in the right, it is celebrated when we do works for God. And by the way, nobody's the blame. We're natural, normal. It only makes sense. But man, everybody loves the podcast and the books and the preaching on rest and recuperation and Sabbath. But we all go home Sunday night or Monday morning and nobody is putting it in the schedule because it takes courage. Adam, you know, when you got to look at some of your buddies and they're like, what are you doing this Friday? You're like, well, Friday is my day off. Well, I thought Saturday was your day off, too, Friday and Saturday. Okay, big dog, must be nice. What do you do when I go on the lake, oh, go on the lake, wow, you know, it's the whole thing. And if that doesn't affect you, then you're not human. It really starts to wear you down, so I appreciate the ability even articulate this in a candid way. That's fantastic. Um, Tudor, your son's with you. Yeah. And, um, you know, my minor now, 22, 21, 20, we had three under three. I don't know what we were thinking back when you win now, though, but it's great now because I got one that just graduated and I got two at Penn State, you know, and so and my kids still want to travel with me. Wow. Somebody asked me what's success. I was like, my kids still want to go on vacation. They still want to travel when I go away. They still want to eat with daddy and good red frogs. That's so cool, Adam. How important is it to having your son on this trip? How important is it that you're protecting and you're discipling and you're leading your homes first, man? Oh, man. I mean, it's, it's, it's the thing that you got very few things in this world that will tell you the truth. Uh, I barely tell myself the truth. You know, if I'm really honest and, you know, uh, my wife understands that if you tell me the truth too much, I freak out so she even she kind of curts the truth. But, uh, or dances around it, uh, your children are this reflection. You cannot deny and that is both, uh, incredible and thrilling and also really challenging. And, um, I see that as Bishop Jake said this thing years ago, man, he said, um, he said when you're dead, your kids will be one of the only things left that will prove you were here once and, and then they'll ask and why were you here, right? And they'll be able to tell through your kids. So, um, it's more than a priority. It's this baked in thing and here's, I see it. God could have put me in any family and God could have given me any kids. But the, um, the, the imposed community that family is should tell us more about who we are and who we're called to love and serve than I think we're giving credence and credit for. I think it's this baked in community that God's like, these are your people and that you don't have to pray about that. These are your people. And so of all, uh, kind of categories of culture in all subcultures of culture in church leadership of all leadership cultures and all different platforms, we, we should at least when it comes to the family part, man, that should be the thing. We really cross. Yes. That should be the thing that sets us apart that we're not, you know, like the, the, the rhetoric is normal now. It's like, you know, family first, I mean, they say that in succession, you know, they say that like in like parodies, right? So that's not even cool anymore, but like, it's more than that. It's like the family is, is, is, is what God put me in. Yes. And it's, it is my ministry and these are the people that are, are, are to matter most to me. It's so obvious and clear and not debatable. So it, it, it really is sacred and, and holy and I, I know your family enough, Adam and I just, I love your family and I've watched a derrius and his wife long enough to know that you both exemplify what I'm talking about. It means a lot to me. Yeah. 100%. I think for me, um, I keep mentioning in 2014. That was, my life was just really unbalanced and, and I was having a conversation with my pastor, PJs Pancake House in Princeton, New Jersey, on NASA, yes, yes, yes, this day. And he was just kind of helping me level set and looked over to me and I'm paraphrasing. But the essence of what he said is, he says, you don't want to spend the majority of your life giving the best of you to people who mean the least to you. It wasn't that he was saying that the faith community was an important course, but what he was arguing is you shouldn't give the best of you to those that will eventually leave right at the expense of those that will always stay, yes. And so from his angle for me, wasn't just like the importance of the biblical proority of, you know, Stuart and family, well, he was trying to protect me from regret. And my youngest son, he's 18. We dropped him in place football, Syracuse. So we would get ready to fly up to Syracuse to drop him off. And I sent my, I recorded a video and I sent it to my pastor. I said, hey, I'm, I'm not calling you because I don't want to cry. You know, say so. Don't you call me back. Don't you call me because I don't want to cry. But I told him I said in 2014, we set up PJs Pancake House in Princeton, New Jersey, on NASA Street. And you told me to make a pivot in terms of proority. And I say today, I'm dropping my son off. I say I have grief because he's leaving. But I don't have regret. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. And I don't have regret because I did what you said at PJs Pancake House. And so for me, it's, that might sound a little selfish, you know what I mean? But it's like, no, it's not just for the glory of God, it's, nah, man, these, you don't want to give, you don't want to spend your whole life and the people that mean the most to you get the least from you. Yeah. 100. You've got 30 seconds to say one thing that you would say to everybody that's listening and just say, hey, this is something you need to make sure you consider. This is something you should be thinking about applying to your life. And obviously this conversation has been incredibly rich. And part of, I think, just the, she did this of the culture, speaks to why you had to almost give that disclaimer there at the end, like that's somehow we have to justify it. Wow. Like that somehow, like to your point or like, you know, we got to justify margins. Sometimes somehow we have to justify something as biblically sound and truest habit. Somehow we have to justify that like, no, my wife and kids and like staying married matters and it's important. Like when I leave all of y'all, I'm going home to them. Yeah. What would be the one thing you say to those people listening? To me, it's really simple. One statement is all I got and that is, and like, let me give a disclaimer. Not talking about putting you over God, but properly prioritizing you is not selfish. Yes. It's stewardship. Yes, sir. That's it. Man, then I'll just, I don't know if adding to that is the right way to say it, but put a period there and say, your God, God of the universe is a father, not a coach. And you are his kids, not his team and PS, everyone on earth are his kids, all of them. They're all his sons and his daughters, all of them on earth. Everybody that annoys you, that's his kids, and the father loves all his kids a lot. And so, I think that sticks out every day to me. And I think I would encourage people to embrace it. In truth, as a story of God, we have one father and one family, and we're all his kids. Yes. And so I want to get comfortable with my family, you know, so no thanks on the division. I'll take the family card, you know, for 5,000 Alex. It has been my honor to sit with both of you. I love you. I root you both on. Thanks. You know, your success doesn't take anything away from it. It's just, it's just all love. And I think, you know, the bottom line is leadership is lonely if you choose it to be. Yeah, yeah. But we can root for each other. And I hope that people are seeing that right now. 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